What it’s Like to be a Millennial In-Betweener

“Your age is your age. But more importantly, your life is your life. Don’t change your journey so that it matches everyone else’s. We need to walk different paths so the whole world can be explored. Revel in the differences. And enjoy where you are, in this moment.”

As a 24 year old millennial, I consider myself to be in a good place. I’m full of hope, determination and most importantly, happiness. As our generation progresses with ideas of freedom, inevitably, there’s still unspoken stipulations that a lot of us strive to follow. Even though I’m content with where I’m at, as part of society I’m what you might call an “in-betweener.” I’m neither here nor there on the spectrum of where other twenty-somethings may be.

Allow me to elaborate…

1) Relationship Status

I’m not married. I’m not engaged. I’m not single.

As more of my friends get engaged and married, I (kinda) humorously can’t help but to ask “what am I doing wrong?!”

Nothing. The answer is absolutely nothing. In fact, when I really think about it, I don’t even want to get married right now! Don’t get me wrong, I’m very much in love but before any relationship progression there are goals that I want to accomplish.

On the opposite spectrum, I’m not part of the twenty-something single crowd. I’m not going to lie – I think being single can be a lot of fun! But it’s even better witnessing the millennial dating life and the ultimate paradox of choice through your single friends 🙂

2) Friends

Being in a committed relationship at 24 is weird, guys.

For example, your friends aren’t just your friends anymore. You have your single friends, your couple friends, your friends who are in a relationship with their dogs, those in a relationship with their job, friends in different states, friends from home, gym friends, bar friends… I could go on…

As much as we’d like to refuse, there are difficult parts that comes with the single friends when you’re in a relationship. Unless your single friend doesn’t mind being the constant third wheel and your S/O doesn’t mind not having a member of the same sex there to keep them sane it is pretty damn hard to work around. Side note: it doesn’t make me love you any less if you are a single friend. But if you could like, find a S/O that would help.

Single friends aren’t the only challenging ones when you’re in a relationship. Meeting other “couple” friends can be pretty, um strange. I’ll give you one hint as to why: starts with an s and rhymes with shwingers.

3) Nightlife Habits

Although I’m not into getting drunk-silly every weekend, admittedly, I still enjoy drinking. My love of wine, beer, vodka tonics, and even a growing interest in martinis (what?) is probably not fading (ha, see what I did there) anytime soon. The difference in my nightlife preference as an in-betweener is based entirely on where I drink.

I have zero desire to hit up a club or even a bar that plays music so loud that you can’t hold a conversation. I’d prefer to drink in a more intimate environment where you can converse, perhaps play a game or two and – surprise – listen to music in the background! 

4) Career

I’ve been graduated from college for two years now. So at this point I’m climbing my way to the top of the corporate ladder of a company that everyone’s heard of, I wear heels to work every day, and I drive a 2016 Lexus, am I right?

Not so much. In fact, I have yet to officially even begin my career! Sure, I’ve had jobs since graduating but I have yet to settle down with a company that I am willing to grow my career with. Hopefully within the next couple months, I’ll be heading in the direction of my brand-new Lexus 😉


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